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90 Second Relationship Rule

Jim Fannin’s 90 second rule makes a lot of sense. Watch the video. It’s 7 minutes and 15 seconds.

Here’s the gist:

If you’ve been away from someone you care about at least 2 hours, the next 90 seconds have a bigger impact on them than spending hours and hours on them later. Walk in the door and be fully engaged in the moment. Regardless of your day prepare to focus your energy toward the people that matter most. See their every facial and hand gesture. Hear every voice tone or inflection. And if the person you meet is sad, then use a technique inside the 90 second rule called mirroring. Act sad so you can show empathy. Now you can raise them to a higher level of positivity. If the person you meet is happy, be just as happy to keep their level of positivity the same.

Investing those first 90 seconds says:

I love you
I care about you
I value you
I need you in my life

This has been VERY true for me. When I see my friends that I haven’t seen in a long time, I always give them my full attention for at least a few minutes. Then I can reconnect with another friend, and another friend, and another friend.

I do the same thing with my brothers and my other family.

I just never thought of the importance of this connection time before I watched this little video.

What do you think?

Can you use this tip to build upon your most important relationships?

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